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Why Attractive Women Date "Bad Guys"

I came across a so called fact sometime ago. This fact stated that "Attractive women tend to date bad guys more because they have genetically superior qualities (physically strong, etc) and therefore have better chances of passing on the genes through the progeny than the good guys".

I think what the statement categorises as "bad guys" are the people who are physically more attractive and athletic, but somewhat rude, trouble-causing, bullies, etc. Therefore, the "good guys" would be the ones pop culture would call nerds - geeky, "weird" and intelligent.

When I first read this statement, I thought, "yeah, that makes sense". Terms like "genetically superior qualities" were used, and therefore the argument seemed convincing.

But on second thought, this "fact" makes little sense. Maybe there is certain truth to it. But I have another way of looking at why the attractive women tend to date "bad guys".

Quite simple - only the "bad guys" have the guts and self confidence to actually go and talk to those beautiful women. The "good guys", more often than not, would stutter and crumble.

I would like to say that this is no scientific truth or that it is backed up by experimental evidence. It is something I have observed and experienced over time.

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